Be the difference that makes the difference

How do you show up in the world each day? Do you greet the alarm clock with joy as you leap out of bed in the morning, or do you push the snooze button and roll over for another fifteen minutes? Do you smile to each and every team member when you arrive at the office each day or are you filled with stress and angst of what needs to be done?

While technology has gifted us with the opportunity to communicate with others all over the globe easily, you may not be aware that your thoughts, self-chatter, energy, emotions and presence are communicating to others more loudly than you think.  

Your thoughts are constant broadcasters, sending and receiving information at any moment like a 24/7 radio station. You may believe you are sending out positive messages and in reality are you a leaking bucket? 


Your thoughts are expressed though your language and the Oxford English Dictionary contains full entries for 171,476 wordsIt’s unlikely that you are using a million different words each day, in fact, research indicates that the average person uses up to about 20,000 words a day if you are a woman, and probably only 8000 if you are a man. What is more, you will also be using the same 100 words on a regular basis to describe your experiences.

Perhaps you’ve been moved by a great presenter. Even today, the words of Winston Churchill, John F Kennedy, Nelson Mandela or Martin Luther King continue to touch people around the globe. You too have the power to inspire and lift others through the language you use. What is more, the language you use to yourself has a huge impact on how you feel and your energy levels. And it gets even more interesting in terms of your impact on others!

Research studies have shown that each human heart emits an electromagnetic field, the largest generated by any part of the human body, which extends up to several feet away from the body in a 360-degree radius. Indeed, the heart is said to be 100,000 times stronger electrically and 5000 times stronger magnetically than the brain. That means your heart literally communicates with the hearts of others in your immediate vicinity! When you feel good, others feel good and conversely, when you’re upset it affects those around you too. Energetic interactions possibly contribute to the ‘magnetic’ attractions or repulsions that occur between people and also affect both business and social relationships.

You, as a human being are simply pure energy. You are energy and everything around you is energy and that means you are entangled and connected to everything and every person around you. How you behave, how you think and feel is also vibrating into this field of energy. Your vibration and positive energy can and does affect and impact others.

No doubt you have been taught to listen to your thoughts and logic rather than go with the vibrations that you feel. Yet I’m sure you have experienced being around certain people who seem to sap every last drop of energy from you. You feel exhausted just being near them. Perhaps it is a team member or particular client that is never happy or errs on what is wrong, rather than what is right. In fact, in life you generally get noticed when you’ve done something wrong, arrived late or left the office early as opposed to all the times you’ve worked late or put the sparkle back into a project.  Conversely, there are other people who raise your energy and it feels good to be in their presence.

The planet and everything on it is energy that is vibrating. Your thoughts are vibrating. Your feelings and your desires are vibrating. And it’s a two way street. What you send out into the world bounces right back at you whether that be confidence, or lack of confidence, success, or lack of success, vitality or lack of vitality. 

The late Steven Covey said “We do not see the world as the world is. We see the world as we are.”

What this means is that when you manifest a shift in yourself it impacts others as well. In fact, the quickest way to bring about a shift in others is to start with yourself. When you shift it creates a whole ripple effect that impacts others that you may not previously have been aware of.

Rupert Sheldrake calls this the morphogenic field; a force that connects each individual with all other individuals in its species, and suggests each species has a group mind. If you go diving, you’ll see schools of fish all moving in a direction and then switch direction instantaneously as if they all got the message to switch at exactly the same moment. Now imagine the morphogenic field that can be created in a business or within a team working in harmony.

So how can you ‘be the difference that makes the difference?’ My belief is that your presence should be a present; a gift to others.

One of the fields I work in is NLP (neuro linguistic programming). It has many different definitions from ‘the new art and science of getting what you want,’ ‘fitness for the mind’ and my own definition which is it’s simply ‘the user manual for your mind.’ NLP is a process of awareness that helps you understand how you do what you do, from your thoughts, behaviour, the language you use to yourself and others on a regular basis, your beliefs, values and energy. More importantly, it helps you become aware of how your thoughts, behaviour, language, beliefs, values and energy impact yourself and others… and make rapid shifts.  You have a huge amount of choice in how you choose to show up in the world and when you become aware of your impact on others then you open the door to new possibilities to expand the limits of your potential and your organizations’ potential. That is when you become ‘the difference that makes the difference!’

Carol Talbot is an inspiration in the inspiration business.  She is sought-after by organisations and individuals seeking a learning consultant, thought-partner, and keynote speaker ‘with a difference’.  It is her uncanny, compelling ability to bring the edginess of systems such as NLP, and the fiery energy of Fire Walking to resonate with the ‘coal face’ of business and life that truly sets Carol alight, and apart, from others in the arena. Indeed, for more than two decades, she has stepped out to help fire out creativity and greatness within individuals and teams worldwide, by engaging them with her wise words and compelling delivery; one-on-one or to an audience of 1000s, when Carol speaks, people listen.

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